Last Sunday was national kissing day and I did a slot on BBC Radio Oxford talking about how most women will gauge a man’s potential from their first kiss. When the male presenter asked me how to captivate someone with the first kiss, I said ‘with the breath kisss’. It’s the kiss for guys who tend to rush into things, but a woman can use it too.

The idea is to build the sexual tension by taking it slow, but with purpose and tenderness. Move in very slowly to kiss her on the mouth. When you get about two or three centremetres from her lips, pause. Breathe slowly though your mouth as though you were tasting each other’s breath. Count to at least seven before you slowly move nearer and touch her lips with yours. Then just run the tip of your tongue along her lips and wait for them to part. At that point do not deep throat her, but play with her tongue with the tip of yours, nibble or suck her lower lip.

If you’ve done it properly, she should moan.