Here are ten “wisdoms” about dating, love and relationships that I’ve Tweeted over the last week or so.

• Tell a woman she looks good when you’re out with her. She will love it, especially when it’s a genuine compliment.
• “We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
• “Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important.” – Carl Reiner
• “There’s one thing to be said for inviting trouble: it generally accepts.” – May Maloo
• Relationships are worth fighting for, but not if you’re the only one fighting.
• Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. One helps you make a living, the other helps you make a life.
• “Like most sciences, the psychology of women is considered only from the point of view of men.” – Karen Horney
• If you haven’t got all the things you want, be grateful for the things you don’t have that you don’t want.
• Seeing young lovers is beautiful…they throw their hearts into the air to enjoy life, not thinking of the risk.
• You turn off a woman if you brag about your career, toys & other women. Women also like a man who can be
  sensitive.

Peter 20 August 2010

I’m runing four more workshops in London and Birmgham in May. And two of them fall on a weekend…the Flirting Safari in London on Saturday 15 May and a Dating Masterclass in Birmingham on Sunday 23 May.

The Flirting Safari is a unique experience to develop and practice your chat-up skills. You will be with a handful of people who, under my guidance, will practice how to approach and talk to complete strangers in city centre shops and bars. For more information and to book go to www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/news/events/

The Dating Masterclass is a practical dating workshop that’ll have a big impact on your dating results. Whether you’re just still looking or back on the dating scene after a break up, this one-day workshop will give you some new ideas and impetus to move forward. For more information and to reserve your place www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/news/events/

And if you to www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/news/events/ you’ll see a full list of my workshops.

Hope to see you soon.

Peter
aka The Dating Doctor

The Flirting Safari is a unique experience to develop and practice your chat-up skills. You will be with a handful of people who, under my guidance, will practice how to approach and talk to complete strangers in city centre shops and bars.

We meet at 11:30am in the city centre with a coffee and briefing. I will give you some tips on how to approach and talk to strangers and after about half an hour we will hit the streets. You will ‘work’ the shops for a couple of hours with my personal coaching and feedback. We will finish with a drink and debrief in a local bar. You are then free to shop and practice at your leisure.

The next one is in London on Saturday 30th January.

For more information, and to book, go to
www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/news/events/

Next week is known as “First Date Week” as it’s the week in which the most first dates take place.  So you’d be prepared I thought that I’d highlight seven important things to remember about the first date.

Keep It Short - You don’t want to be stuck with someone who’s a bore. So meet for drink after work or a coffee during your lunch break. Wednesday is a good day as it’s a break in the week and if you do get on you can suggest that you meet again on Saturday. That way you don’t have to wait ten days before your second date.

Be Decisive - Most women like a man who knows what he’s doing and takes charge. So guys you must choose the place you’re going to meet. If you want to give her a say, then you should suggest two places and ask her which one she’d prefer. But always try and come across as decisive and confident.

Dress To Please - Wear clothes that are appropriate for where you’re going. But make sure they can see that you made an effort for them. And try and be on time. There’s nothing worse than having to wait wondering if you’ve been stood up. So try not to make them go through that.

Smile When You Meet - Show you’re pleased to see them. Greet them with a beaming smile that lights up your eyes. Do not shake hands, this is a date not a business meeting. Say hello and touch them gently on their upper arm with the palm of your hand.

Show That You’re Interested in Them - It’s always best to talk about the things that interest them not the ones that interest you. You must listen to what they tell you and follow their line of conversation. Generally when you meet someone for the first time they are happy to talk about five things: whereabouts they live; their interests (such as music, films and what they do in their spare time); holidays; their job and what’s going on in the world (the weather, the place you’re in, etc).

You’ll need to tell them a bit about yourself, but don’t brag or make them feel inferior. Even though you’re probably a bit nervous, try and talk slowly and look at their face. And when they talk look at their eyes, down to their mouth and back to their eyes. This is called the flirting triangle. Do not look around the room as though you are bored.

Give The a Compliment - When you’re on the first date you should always give them a compliment as soon as you can. Even something simple like “you look really great” or “you look much better than your photo” when you first meet them.

Say Goodbye in Style - if you want to see them again agree a date and time before you part. Guys always try and kiss her on the cheek or lips, otherwise she’ll think you don’t fancy her.

Good luck, Peter

Run by an experiential photography company, Shoot Dating is a new dating concept based around the concept of a photographic treasure hunt. Daters are matched up in teams and given clues from which they have to construct a photo.  Each new clue means a new team giving participants the opportunity to meet up to 8 potential partners in a fun creative environment.

The first Shoot Dating event will take place on the 5th December starting at 2.30pm going on until the early evening at a deliciously sexy Bathhouse venue near Liverpool Street, London.

To find out more, and to book your place go to http://www.shootexperience.com/events/info/198 

I thought that I’d jot down the topics that people are perfectly happy to talk about when you first meet them. Whether it’s in the shops or on a date.

When you meet someone on the street, in the shops or at a party they are happy to chat about five things…

• what they are doing at that moment
• why they are there
• whereabouts they live
• holidays and interests
• what’s going on around you (the weather, crowds etc)

When you’re on a date they will also talk about…

• what they do for work
• the area in which they live and their home
• their taste in music, films, food, etc
• their views on what’s going on in the world
• their dreams and aspirations

You also need to phrase the questions so they’re easy for them to answer. Things like…

• what sort of things do you like doing on holiday?
• what was the last CD or download that you bought?
• what was the last film that you went to see?
• if you rent a DVD which section do you look in?
• what did you do last weekend?

Conversation can be quite hard with people that you don’t know very well. But it can also be fun. The way to learn and improve is to practice. So try and develop a habit of chatting to everyone you meet – shop assistants, waiters, people behind you in the bus/train queue, and so on.

The internet has always been a good way to meet new people, and many users have gone on to get married. These days it’s become even more important because it’s a lot cheaper than going out to bars or on dinner-dating events.

This Internet Dating Workshop is hands-on and takes place in a specialist IT training room. We limit the number to ten, so everyone has their own computer and and internet access. You will  learn how to:

• develop your own tempting and engaging profile;
• carry out internet searches for ideal matches by location, interests, age, work, etc. And preferred combinations;
• keep your profile at the top of the search lists for your ideal partner;
• develop the right strategies for success – when to wink, what to write in emails, how to  chat, etc;
• protect yourself when you ask for a date;
• get the best from the first, second and third date.

A professional photographer from Gold Seal Photography will also be there on the day. And you might want them to take a portrait photograph of you that’s ready to load on to any dating site.

The workshop will be presented by Bryony Anne, Results Dating Coach. Bryony hosts Speed Dating, Singles Wine Tasting and Singles Dinner Dates at selected venues in Southern England and has her own weekly local radio show on Stroud FM. For more information about Bryony go to www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk/bios.html

The workshop starts at 9.45 am for a 10.00 kick-off and finishes at 12 noon. We will email you details of the venue and joining instructions when you book your place. The price for this half-day workshop is £30. Places are strictly limited to ten people maximum so each person gets some individual coaching.

• What you say is not as important as how you look and how you sound. You must come across as confident, relaxed & friendly.
• “The one thing we can never get enough of is love. And the one thing we can never give enough of is love.” Henry Miller
• Have no expectations so you can shrug off the fear of rejection.
• Read their body language when you chat to them so you get a feel for what they think of you.
• Switch off your iPod when you’re out and walk with an open and friendly posture. You’ll be surprised what happens.
• If you chatup two people together, treat them the same and let them decide.
• There’s a pick-up agenda in clubs & bars. This doesn’t happen when you chatup strangers in shops, airports & art galleries.
• “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” Dr. Seuss
• Most couples start out arguing about one thing and, within five minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing.
• When you flirt by laughing at silly things together and make sure you touch them on the upper arm at the same time.

A good friend of mine has organised a dinner date with a difference. Dinners of Love are an incredible evening with wonderful people all simmering with the potential of love…

“The most unexpected wonderful and magical evening.  I felt like I’d walked right into an adventurous, loving and colourful storybook. Superb group of people who I truly hope to see again” (Sharon)

“This is a wondrous love filled event.  An amazing way to connect with others.” (Cate)

Imagine an intimate, candlelit and sumptuous dinner of love, surrounded by beautiful people in a sensuous, relaxed and very friendly atmosphere offering simmering potential, and an incredible experience! This is an entirely new concept in love, friendship and relationships. It’s an opportunity for a truly experiential evening.

You’ll have a fabulous evening, a great party, delicious food, meet gorgeous people and get to participate in the exercises and “games” designed to break down traditional barriers to meeting new people. A cocktail of activities based around the theme of love. An evening of fun and joy and passion!

Love is always in the air at “The Love Dinners” you might meet someone special and you will certainly meet lots of other LOVEly people.

Things happen as a result of a Love Dinner!

The next “Dinner of Love” is on 19 June and takes place in Islington, North London.  Access is by private invitation only.  For more information go to www.dinnersoflove.com and to book email Emily Gordon at emily@dinnersoflove.com.

If you speak to Emily, please mention my name.

Peter

aka The Dating Doctor

Keep It Short – you don’t want to be stuck with someone who’s a bore. So meet for drink after work or a coffee during your lunch break.

Dress To Please – wear clothes that are appropriate for where you’re going. But make sure they can see that you made an effort.

Smile When You Meet – show that you’re pleased to see them. Greet them with a beaming smile that lights up your eyes.

Show You’re Interested in Them – talk about the things that interest them and animate your head in response to what they’re saying. They will happily talk about where they live, holidays, work, interests and hobbies, and their taste in music, films, etc.

Say Goodbye in Style – if you want to see them again agree a date and time before you part. Guys always try and kiss her on the cheek or lips, otherwise she’ll think you don’t fancy her.