Ask The Doctor

You can email me with any question about flirting, dating and seduction. I can also answer questions on kissing and foreplay. I'll try and get back to you within 24 hours.

I get questions on all sorts of topics, from how to meet people, through how to be a better kisser and how to maintain a long distance relationship.

Some Recent Questions

I don't know whether you can help me. My problem is that I find it difficult (no its really impossible) to meet anyone. I have tried various Internet dating sites and have drawn a blank. Although it seems fine in the emails everything goes wrong with the meeting. The last time we met for coffee and ended up spending about 3 hours together and I thought it seemed to be going well only to be told when we got back to our respective cars that it was no good and goodbye.

I do hope you can help me. I saw your name on the BBC site. How do I start ? Well easiest thing to say is that my relationship skills are, at best, dire. At worst they are non existent. If I were to walk into a room, I probably wouldn't talk to anyone. I wonder if I am beyond help, or can you help me ?

Hello! just have one question that keeps me baffled constantly! What does it mean when a guy does not always keep eye contact with you when you hang around them, or on a date wth them; but still wants to see you? What does it mean when a guy says " Your eyes are seductive; your eyes pull me in and it's hard to look at you sometimes, or keep a glaze". Are these lies, or shyness?

Peter, I attended your workshop the other evening, which I thoroughly enjoyed. Anyway I chatted to one guy at the break & at the end, and we went for a drink in the bar. We sat & chatted for quite a while at a table on our own but he didn’t ask for my number at the end of the evening. I thought that he liked me but now I’m not so sure.

Hi Peter. I want some advice for a woman who is fed up with men of her own age and wants to attract someone a bit younger - after all, men do it all the time! 

I’m 36 years old and had been in back to back relationships since I was 15 years old. Two and a half years ago, I was single for the first time and it’s been a real eye opener. At first I enjoyed being single but recently I have wanted to settle down again. I seem to be coming up against the same pattern i.e. men tell me that they really fancy me and we click but that they are not looking for a committed relationship or they are just after sex. Do you have other people my age with the same problem?

My boyfriend is in the States at the moment, and I'm stuck in Leeds. Can you give me some advice on keeping the spark alive. Also how important is it to maintain seduction in a long distance relationship, and how can we achieve this when we don't see each other regulalry?