Tips for Speed Dating - Thursday, January 12, 2006
Ran a good workshop last night - "How to Increase your Speed Dating Matches". Twenty four people attended, we had great fun and they practiced a lot of good stuff. One of the things we talked about was the Seven Dating Sins. Here they are:
Appearing nervous and unnatural – it’s important to look confident and hold your head up high (put an angel on your shoulder).
Being self-centred and talking me, me, me. Try and use lots of open and indirect questions so you appear interested in the other person and what they like and dislike.
Appearing to interrogate the other person by asking closed questions, personal questions and questions that are hard to answer.
Showing Boredom – looking around the room, playing with a beer mat, scribbling notes in front of the other person.
Not being interested in the other person. Try and use your body language to build rapport. Make sure you come across as enthusiastic and passionate. Genuine passion will always be clearly communicated and, most importantly, remembered.
Expecting too much. Being intense, talking too fast and moving too fast. Take it easy - build rapport, appear interesting and funny.
Unpacking emotional baggage and talking about your past relationships.
As the Dating Doctor, Peter Spalton speaks at events, runs high-energy workshops and coaches people on all aspects of flirting, dating and seduction .
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