Chat Up Tips

Archive from The Dating Doctor's Blog on Chatting Up Strangers

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005

These are some of the tips that I talk about on the Flirting Safari.

Hunt Where They Browse

check out the situation.
wait for them to stop, then speak.

Talk to Anyone Within Three Feet

notice their body language.
make eye contact and smile.
get your eyes on same level, then speak.

Speak

ask a question.
make a statement or give an opinion.
combine into a statement-question.

I'll give you some ideas of what to say next time.

Friday, December 16, 2005

When you have a chance encounter with someone, most people don't know how to start a conversation. In fact you just need to look at the other person and the situtaion you are both in, and then use one of six ways to start a conversation.

American way, just say hi…

"hi, how are you today?"

Comment about the situation you are both in…

"I think the train's going to be late again."

Ask their advice…

"have you seen a book on...?"

Mention what they’re wearing…

"I love your T shirt, where did you get it?"

Observe what they’re doing…

"gosh that food looks good, what have you got?"

Match what they’re feeling…

"phew, it’s been a long day already."

The best approach is one that makes the other person smile or laugh. So try and come out with something sparky, witty or unusual. But don't spend too much time thinking about what to say as you'll lose your confidence and the moment will have passed you by.

To get more hints and tips on how to approach and talk to strangers check out www.flirtingsafari.com

Monday, June 19, 2006

Art galleries and exhibitions are a great place to meet people, because they are a relaxed environment like Waterstones or Borders. People have time to browse and seem happy to chat.

The best way to approach someone is when they are standing looking at a picture or exhibit. Come along side them, and after a few seconds say something that strikes you about the picture or exhibit. Maybe something like... "I love the way he's captured the shadows."

You've then got keep the conversation going. You could ask them if they've been here before, whether they're on a visit for the day or on holiday, or if they saw another exhibition that you also went to. Then listen to what they say and follow any interesting things they might mention to build the conversation.

Practice makes you perfect, so talk to anyone in three feet.

To learn the best way to approach strangers, come on one of my Flirting Safaris.

Wednesday, July 05, 2006

When you have a chance encounter with someone, most people don't know how to start a conversation. In fact, the best way is to look at the situation you're both in and make a 'sparky' comment. Things that interest or puzzle you and are likely to interest them.

"I hate these new PIN numbers"
"That stuff looks fun, doesn't it?"
"This looks good, have you tried the sausages?"
"Fancy only having one barman"
"We've been waiting ages, is this train always late?"
"You know, they never seem to put anything on special offer that I really want"
"Excuse me, but I've just got to say that I think you're T-shirt is fantastic"
"Now those look fattening, but terrific!"

The trick is to not think too hard about what you're going to say, because you'll 'chicken-out'. The best way is to trust your luck and just look at the situation you're both in, turn to other person and say the first thing that comes in your head.

If you want to learn some other ways to start conversations with strangers, come along to a Flirting Safari.

As one guy said recently... Hi Peter, I came on your Flirting Safari yesterday. I like to say thank you, it is quite cool - did end up getting a number yesterday evening - from a gorgeous 27 year old girl at a station, using a situational opener, which would never have happened without the training had from you.

As the Dating Doctor, Peter Spalton speaks at events, runs high-energy workshops and coaches people on all aspects of flirting, dating and seduction.

He has appeared on national TV and regularly does interviews and phone-ins on local radio. He also appears in the regional press and has been syndicated by the Press Association. His views and advice have been published on the BBC News web site and Channel 4 teletext. Visit him on the Web at www.thedatingdoctor.co.uk

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